It feels very surreal typing this, that it’s my last week by week post before the babies arrive! I am absolutely in awe that my body has allowed me to get so far given everything that all the doctors, midwives and various other medical professionals I’ve seen have said. Along my journey, I came across another three mo/di twin mum’s to be who all had due dates either the same or just after mine and all have given birth. The only explanation as to why these two haven’t made an early appearance by now is probably down to the fact they’re both sat in breech position which in my eyes as uncomfortable as I am now, is a blessing.
How Big are the Babies:
At our 34 week scan, Twin 1 was 4.11 and Twin 2 was 4.9 so perfectly on track to hopefully make it to 5lbs for week 36 when they’ll be delivered. Our family have been taking bets about how big the girls are each week when we’ve been scanned and this week everyone got a shock as no one thought they would have made those weights!
I’ve been a bit quiet lately on here and on social media… mainly because I’ve felt so rubbish the past couple of weeks. I don’t really feel like I can complain as I’ve had hardly any symptoms up until around 30/32 weeks. My blood pressure has been perfect throughout the pregnancy but I started to swell up and everyone had a little panic it might be preeclampsia – thankfully it wasn’t. However the babies are sitting blocking the flow to my legs which no matter what I do causes them to swell up excessively. Much more so than your usual pregnancy fluid retention. I’d already been referred to a physio through my consultant and she’s been so helpful, attempting to move the babies by manipulating my back and providing me with crutches for support. I’ve also got a not so sexy support wrap that makes me look like I’ve been mummified to support my back and abs.
As I’ve felt so heavy, that’s took toll on my energy levels and I’ve been napping a lot more throughout the day. On a night I’ve been waking up to go to the bathroom but I’ve been so exhausted I’ve gone straight back to sleep, despite been so uncomfortable. I do have a new found admiration for fraternal twin mum’s as I have no idea how you manage to get through these final few weeks and go full term!
I’ve tried my best to stick to my three healthy meals a day and healthy snacks but with feeling so glum I’ve treat myself recently. I’ve indulged in ice creams and chocolate bars when I’ve wanted and considering how good I’ve been till now I don’t feel guilty at all.
Curiosity got the better of me and I hopped on my Mum’s scales the other night! I’ve put on around 35lbs from my pre-pregnancy weight which isn’t too bad I don’t think considering there’s nearly 10lbs of baby, a placenta, a lot more blood and fluid in general in me right now. Like I mentioned in my last update, family are still shocked at the size of my bump but I think that’s because I was so slim and always have been but strangers and those who don’t know I’m expecting twins can’t believe there’s two in there!
As with last week’s update – I’m trying to stay as active as possible but at the same time following Doctor’s orders to keep my feet up and rest as much as I can.
As mentioned above – I’m exhausted from carrying all this weight around. It’s disturbed sleep but I’m getting lots of it.
Other Notable Things:
Yikes! I start pre-op in a couple of days and the next time I write a blog post, my two tiny twins will be here! See you on the other side!
On my last update post, I announced that we’d found out our d-day in our latest appointment with our consultant and provided our girls don’t make an early appearance of their own, they’ll be joining us at 36 weeks, in June. It was a surreal experience finding out the birthday of your babies before they’re here but I’ve known for a while because of our twins chorionicity that the process would be much more clinical than a singleton pregnancy.
Our type of twins, mo/di share a placenta and are separated by a thin membrane (our doctor describes it as a piece of clingfilm in a bag of water) and research has shown, as well as other various reasons, the placenta isn’t strong enough for both after 36 weeks. Therefore they are delivered early. However modi’s apparently have a habit of turning up of their own accord earlier than this!
Been under consultant care means we’ve been seen and scanned at least every two weeks, sometimes more depending on what has been going on. On top of this I’ve had additional appointments with community midwives, health visitors and my GP, so we’ve definitely been well looked after. Birth was discussed at our very first consultant appointment and it was explained we could still potentially have a natural birth provided the circumstances were right. I’m not a doctor so I won’t even begin to try and repeat everything we were told here. I also believe that everyone is different and as it turns out because of our twins circumstances, the best thing for us, was to plan a date in for a section at 36 weeks.
The idea of a ‘Birth Plan’ isn’t something I’ve ever been comfortable with. I’m no expert but in my opinion there are so many things that can happen during labor or an operation that really it would be hard to make a plan for what you want to happen. And I think this is why so many friends, family members and people I’ve spoke to feel so disappointed with their birthing experiences… because they didn’t go the way they intended.
So I’ve been very much anti-plan from day one… I’m happy to go with the flow and whatever is best and safest for the twins is what I want. We’ve got all our dates to begin the process which starts the week prior and then our section date but if the twins decide to make an earlier appearance, we’ll be assessed then to see what the best course of action is.
What I have done is made some points with our consultant which we discussed. For example, I quite like the idea of hearing the process so if I can, I want to know what’s going on. In terms of skin to skin, the priority is obviously making sure the girls are fine and healthy but as soon as possible, section or v-bac, we’d like whoever can if that’s me or Jay to be able to have some skin to skin time with the babies. Finally if the babies or one of them needs to go to NICU, Jay is to go with them while I’m finished been stitched up.
And that is as far as the plan on paper goes. The rest of the plan is to spend the time between now and the twins arrival getting ourselves and our home ready for them and enjoying what time we have left as just the two of us as much as we can. It feels very surreal but terribly exciting that we’ll shortly be meeting our two little mini me’s!
The bags under my eyes in this bump photo say it all. Growing two tiny humans is exhausting. Some days I feel like I have been pregnant forever and other days it only seems like yesterday I was throwing the ClearBlue stick at Jay explaining ‘we might have a little issue…’ Oh if I’d only known then that our little issue might be x2. I have successfully made it to 32 weeks pregnant with our little modi twins and looking back, I’ve really not had that bad of a pregnancy. I have however started to really notice my limitations. Not long now though – we met our consultant again this week and d-day (or c-day should I say) has been decided!
How Big are the Babies:
Been scanned by our consultant this week was a different experience to been scanned by our twin midwife as there was a lot to take in while she was doing the scanning. The girls are now so big and are cuddled up together so it’s really hard to make out two baby shapes – we really just see various body parts and to top it off they were sat in strange positions. Twin 1 was 3 lb 7oz, still comfortably sat in breech position. Twin 2 for the first time in the whole pregnancy had over taken her sister and was 3lb 8oz, also breech and both facing each other, heads together. Twin 2 had definitely been doing some stretching as one of her legs was up by her head!
The back pain continues – it’s more of a dull ache everywhere until I try and do something like bend or reach then sometimes I get a sharp pain. It’s also waking me up during the night and whilst I’m most comfortable sleeping on my left, I get bored and turning over is really uncomfortable. Generally, once I’ve turned I need the bathroom and have to get up so it just doesn’t seem worth it. I did have a very successful physiotherapy appointment today which I’m going to cover in a separate post as it could be really useful to anyone else who’s pregnant with twins!
Braxton hicks – apparently my Mum never even noticed when she had these. Mine sometimes are a little uncomfortable but are worst when I’m a passenger in a car. Going over bumps in the road is like a form of torture.
I still have a healthy appetite and eat more than I used to but I wouldn’t say I’m eating for three or even for two. I’m still having three balanced meals and as I type this, after lunch and before dinner, I’m snacking on a tin of peach slices.
No idea. Family and generally older people (our gardener for example) take great pleasure in saying ‘oooh you’re getting bigger’ ‘looks like you have two in their ha ha’ and ‘have you swallowed a couple watermelons?’ Friends, friends of friends and strangers have slightly different reactions – some comment that I don’t even look pregnant from certain angles, others ‘can’t believe there’s two in there’ and a few have said ‘what a tidy little bump.’
So my bump is definitely growing and is bigger but I really don’t care as long as our twinnies are healthy. I have started to notice I’m carrying more fluid and my face, ankles, feet and hands are swollen. With only a few weeks to go, I don’t think this is bad going though.
I don’t think I can call it exercise any longer – I move and I try and keep as active as I can. I walk a lot slower and I haven’t been swimming due to my classes running out. I’ve still been doing my stretching and I’ll be adding the exercises my physio gave me to these.
As mentioned above, I go to the bathroom multiple times through the night now and turning over is a challenge so it’s not great sleep. There has been the odd night where the twins have decided to have a party and all I can feel is them turning and kicking, which is a lovely comfort to know they are there and ok but a pain in the bum when you’re just dropping off and someone thinks your bladder is a trampoline.
Other Notable Things:
So my little bit of a wobble while trying to put socks on is now a full blown impersonation of a weeble (remember them?). I can’t reach and I’ve stopped trying. I can’t pick things up off the floor without doing the most ridiculous looking lunge and I waddle when I walk. I get stuck in our sofa and feel like a space hopper with giant arms.
The most exciting news which I briefly touched on above was that we had another appointment with our consultant and we now know when the babies will be born, this is provided they don’t decide to make an early appearance themselves! Since there is a lot involved with twin pregnancy birth plans I’ve already started drafting a separate post about ours to go live later this week. It’s very much an anti-birth plan. Can you believe than in less than a month myself and Jay will be the proud parents of two tiny humans? Now that’s going to fly over…